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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by _ on Tue Nov 07, 2017 1:10 am

    would be cool to able to let relationships with people i have real feelings for progress naturally instead of wanting/expecting exclusivity after a month out of neediness and insecurity
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by chrondog on Tue Nov 07, 2017 2:53 pm

    oof, i had one of those nights last night.

    it's not even that i am emotionally incapable of handling the ambiguity or the waiting for something good. i've done that countless times; i respect that other people have their own experiences that don't revolve around me. it's that the longing to skip the coy, early period of guardedness and move into something with real emotional resonance is so strong.

    i don't need them to be anything in particular, i just want them to want to be around.

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    Post by _ on Wed Nov 08, 2017 1:18 pm

    yeah

    that feeling of ambiguity inevitably turns into childish and irrational feelings of inadequacy on my part that i can't get over. oh well
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    Post by chrondog on Wed Nov 08, 2017 4:31 pm

    yes, that's what i find. intellectually i'm capable of putting things in perspective and being patient, but emotionally i feel inadequate and self-destructive in those moments of stillness. i know it's wrong to rely on other people to motivate yourself, but i don't what else i'm motivated by other than not being alone.

    i'm working on getting abs so attractive women will want to hang out with me even if my personality sucks.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by undo on Sun Dec 10, 2017 12:13 am

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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by Ned Braden on Mon Dec 11, 2017 11:42 pm

    Walking through the supermarket. All this food is unappealing, but I need to eat. Also, “jingle bell rock” is playing.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by Ned Braden on Tue Dec 12, 2017 12:30 am

    God damn, that sucks Undo. I don’t have much experience with that stuff, but sounds like the worst kind of nightmare.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by undo on Tue Dec 12, 2017 7:29 pm

    Ned Braden wrote:God damn, that sucks Undo. I don’t have much experience with that stuff, but sounds like the worst kind of nightmare.

    It's really not, I'm fine or at least as fine as anyone can be in a financial situation like the one I'm in, which is tolerable if you can let go of the inherited expectation of "doing better than your parents" and don't mind driving a car that may or may not literally rust out in 2018.

    I'd gotten advice to try to refinance and figured it wouldn't hurt to look into it, but I guess that stuff is for people who get recruited out of college into $60K a year jobs or something at age 23 or whatever.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by C-poots on Tue Dec 12, 2017 10:05 pm

    Undo what do you do as a profession?
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    Post by undo on Tue Dec 12, 2017 10:28 pm

    Medical imaging, basically.

    I suppose it actually pays very well but I am part time and so it doesn't, at least not right now.

    I have a few other gigs that I'm making extra dough through, some taxed and some not, but it guess all that doesn't quite add up to what anyone here would call real money.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by zappo on Wed Dec 13, 2017 12:06 am

    Man, I'm broke as shit. You sound like the biggest of all ballers.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by undo on Wed Dec 13, 2017 12:32 am

    I estimated my income for the year the other night based on the past four months of wages and multiplied by three. It was such a small amount that I don't even feel comfortable posting it here.
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    Post by zappo on Wed Dec 13, 2017 12:34 am

    Oh, there's no fucking way I'd post them shits. I've got a pretend reputation to maintain.
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    Post by zappo on Wed Dec 13, 2017 12:35 am

    I'm just trying to be lighthearted. I hope that that's clear. I'm not trying to tell you to shut up and stop complaining. I'm just saying that you're not alone. I feel you, B.
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    Post by undo on Wed Dec 13, 2017 1:08 am

    Oh, I know.

    The longer post that would follow this isn't really coming together for me like I thought it would, but yeah, I know you're not literally judging me or anyone else here.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by zappo on Wed Dec 13, 2017 1:12 am

    I really hope that things start looking up much sooner than later.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by coyote on Wed Dec 13, 2017 7:45 am

    Since my dad died my mom has literally avoided me because (I think this is the reason) I felt he was verbally and emotionally abusive to me. I was very supportive throughout his ALS and let a lot go, did not make any scenes, respectful etc.

    At his funeral I was making rounds and my dumb aunt and her family sat at the head of the table in my spot. I've been in too many fights as the black sheep so I let them sit there. I brought it up to my brother and the story is "people encouraged you to sit there but you didn't want to"

    Throughout my life in the family, members have done very disrespectful things to me then either denied it happened or blamed me for the interaction. It's so tiresome and not worth it any longer.

    My brother also told me I was full of shit and making up stories of how I've been treated.

    They all treat me like crap, who needs them. It's sad because I'm honestly friendly and reasonable. At least I have my wife and daughter. It's just lonely.
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    Re: going through some shit right now

    Post by Duff... on Wed Dec 13, 2017 6:07 pm

    Sorry to hear that, man. Family can be a drag.

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